Don’t underestimate likeability
Have you ever been passed up for a promotion, overlooked for a desired project, or not offered the job following the interview?
You probably received feedback that it’s not the right time for a promotion, the desired project is staffed with everyone needed, or a more qualified candidate was selected for the job. However, you know for a fact that others in your department are being promoted, there are actually two spots available on that desired project team, or you’re more than qualified for the job you didn’t get. Sometimes when the answers simply don’t add up, it may be time to consider your level of likeability. What does that mean? My personal definition is being thought of with positivity and as someone who people enjoy being around. And let me tell you something, it matters.
I often joke that not much changes from kindergarten to adulthood…even in the workplace. The star students are often chosen as the line leader, just like high performers who are well-liked in the workplace get picked for promotions and top projects. Ask yourself, how many times have you come across someone in your company in a leadership role and you wonder how they got there so soon? Chances are, in addition to being able to do the job, they’re also well-liked by those who make important personnel decisions such as hiring, project alignments, and promotions.
If you think you have room to improve your likeability and build better relationships in the workplace, please check out the tips below.
Be positive. No one wants to be around someone who is negative all the time. We all have our days, but try not to let the bad ones show up more than the good ones. A great attitude can take you far.
Be authentic. If you’re spending time being someone other than yourself, you’re wasting valuable energy that could be used in other ways such as strengthening the quality of your work.
Volunteer or offer your services for the projects that your manager might have trouble assigning. Your manager will remember this favorably.
Check in with your manager or teammates to learn if they could use your assistance if you have capacity.
Connect with your colleagues for coffee or lunch, and get to know them.
Recognize teammates in meetings and thank them for their contributions to an assignment or project. People like to work with colleagues they trust to give credit when it’s due.
Reach out to your colleagues to say hello and check in. Don’t ask for anything or provide updates, just touch base with them when you can.
While it’s important to have the skills required to do the job or assignment well, being liked can go a really long way in your overall career success. People in general, including leaders, make exceptions and go above and beyond for the people they like. Don’t you?
